Dominance and submission are more about power and control than about sexual pleasure. In a Dominant/submissive relationship, also called Dom/sub or just D/s, the kink is how people share power. 

The person in the dominant role is in charge of the person in the submissive role. The control can be partial or total. 

Types of Dominant/submissive relationships

The D/s relationship can be physical and/or sexually intimate, but physical touch is not required for control and submission. Due to this, the relationship can happen online or over the phone.

Financial domination is a classic example of a D/s relationship that doesn’t require physical contact. Often referred to as fandom, the dominant partner will usually tell the submissive partner what they need to do financially. This can be giving the dominant money, buying gifts, or paying their bills.

The submissive partner is usually rewarded for meeting their goals or punished for failing. 

Some dominants and submissive (Doms and subs) only stay in their roles during play scenes, while others want to switch it up and play as dominants in one scene and subs in another. There is no right or wrong way to go about it. It’s all about you. 

Those who take on their D/s jobs full-time are known as “master/mistress,” while those that are always subs are known as “slaves.”

Regardless of how you play it out, note that Master/slave (M/s) relationships must always be voluntary, and sex is not always a part of the game. 

You can play the D/s relationships between you and your partner or other BDSM lifestyle practitioners. You can even go a notch higher and hire a professional dominator/dominatrix (pro-domme) such as the one here https://www.mrskin.com/melissa-rauch-nude-c21786 to help you live your kink. 

How to play the dominant role

As a dominant partner, you have power over the sub, and you are often referred to as the “top.” Even the way the letters are capitalized shows this dynamic. For example, people in the BDSM group leave the “s” in “D/s” in lowercase to show that it is lower on the hierarchy.

Most of the time, subs must call you by a specific title, such as “Mistress.” As a Doms, you can use your power and beat and bond or humiliate your partner. 

As much as you have power, you should always have permission from your sub to do these things to them. 

How to be a sub

As a sub, or “bottom,” you give the dom some or all of the power. While females can be subs, male submission is the most popular on the internet, and it involves forced feminization, cuckoldry, and other things. 

You should always be submissive to your partner’s authority. You can do this physically by following directions or letting yourself be held down. You can also do it verbally by answering questions or agreeing to the rules. 

As much as you should submit, don’t do something you are uncomfortable with and end up hurting yourself. You should also always speak up if you feel uncomfortable or the dom is getting close to your limit.

After the scene, follow through with aftercare. This is because BDSM can be powerful and stressful, so taking care of yourself after a scene is important. 

This could be taking care of your body by taking a warm bath or giving yourself comfort food. 

It could also mean taking care of your emotions through self-reflection and self-care. After playing, you should always check in with yourself to make sure you feel safe and cared for.

Do you have to announce to the world that you love dominant/submissive relationships?

Many people have the impression that if you are in a D/s relationship, you must start wearing rubber and bondage gear all the time, but this isn’t the case.

Many people in D/s relationships do the same things as those in “vanilla” relationships, so you don’t have to announce to the world that you have a kink. 

If you are proud of your sexuality and would love to let other people know what you are into, you can wear a collar or labeled underwear. 

Guide to a functional dominant/submissive relationship

For the D/s relationship to function, you need to observe several rules. These rules include: 

Do everything under consent

Whether you are at the top or bottom, you need to ensure that all the actions are mutually agreed upon, which means that both of you know what is going on and agree to it. 

Consent should be given voluntarily and not be forced. It should also be possible to take it back at any time.

Before starting your scene, have a sitting and define your arrangement and expectations. 

Ensure that the activities are safe.

BDSM activities can be hard on the body and mind, so ensuring both parties are safe is essential. 

This could mean using “safewords” or other ways to tell each other when it’s time to stop playing. You also should use the right safety gear and tools and avoid things that are too dangerous.

Maintain the highest levels of trust

Fact that one partner is taking the role of the strong one and the other taking the role of the submissive one, there should be high levels of trust that the dominant partner won’t go beyond the agreement and always respect the borders and limits of the other person. 

In conclusion

If you are into dominant/submissive relationships, there is nothing wrong with living your fantasy. You only need to find a partner who is ready to play. 

As you play, remember that consent is the most important factor and makes all the difference between D/s and violent relationships. 

Without permission, BDSM acts like sexual shaming and caning would be considered wrong and a crime.

Before you do anything to your partner, always ensure that you get their consent. You should never go beyond the agreed limits and always respect the safe word. Whenever the submissive partner utters the word, you should stop the activity and confirm that they are okay. 

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